How To Remain Friends With a Ex
I am incredibly fortunate to count my ex-boyfriend as one of my closest friends. And it was after our break-up that I realised how damn rare it is to have such a friendship. And it needn’t be.
Here are my tips to remaining friends, actual proper friends. (Although this is probably more suited to mutual break-ups)
1. How either of you have behaved during the course of the relationship will effect the evetual friendship. If you treat one another or one of you gets treated like shit (cheated on, put down, manipulated, controlled etc) you should not continue such a damaging relationship in any capacity. On the flip side if you have both treated each other with compassion why not continue?
2. Do not be mean during a break up. It is all too easy to be cruel, to say things you don’t mean during a break up, especially if you weren’t expecting it, if nothing else you may run in the same social circles, retaining some sort of dignity during a break as well as compassion for your former half will help the future. You don’t want to have to hide in a cupboard when ever you see them.
3. Remember that while you may not be ‘in love’ with this person any longer, they are still the same person, still that person you loved. Be kind, remember boy/girlfriend, it all ends with friend. Treat them as you would a friend.
4. No nooky. Too confusing. Too upsetting. No.
What are your tips for staying friends? Do you think you should try or is it all best forgotten?
Love
Siobhan
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