Shut Your Pie Hole. STOP WHINING!!!!
(She had terrible hair, turned men into stone everytime she winked at them, but did Medusa whine? No)
Do you bitch and moan?
Do you only see the cloud and never the silver lining?
Do you find yourself on occasion, just whining?
‘Where are all the opportunities?’ or ‘Why are there no jobs for me????’ to name some of the most irritating whines I’ve heard in the last week.
This is not the same as off loading, where you get what ever us upsetting you off your chest and that’s it. Endov.
I was certainly guilty of whining during my period of unemployment. Stuck on repeat, the soundtrack: ‘Woe is me’.
It was pathetic ultimately emotionally damaging as I reminded myself, at length, about what I lacked. Overlooking the fact that was I a new grad with plenty of ideas for an employer I should have used to create work for myself instead, that I had a lovely home, food in the house and a caring partner who was supporting the two of us.
Whining robbed me of my self respect as I couldn’t see past my own lack.
Whining, the way small children do to get at that sticky caramel biscuit before dinner, wears you down.
It’s ultimately pointless, it get’s you nowhere, no closer to achieving what you want. Wasted energy, spent hurting yourself. What a damn waste.
Zap Yourself Out of the Whine Cycle
1. Write out your blessings. This is not to undermine the real worries in your life, unemployment is a huge concern, but it can give you a lift when you see them down on paper in front of you, giving you a sense that not all is lost and that you can keep going.
Here’s a few of mine:
Living alone in a great flat
Molly the Collie
Amazing apple crumble
My fun grandmother
Living next to the park
Leaves on the trees
My fantastic mates
The hot pink heels I can’t strut in, but make me wanna DANCE.
That tiny list took me 10 seconds to scribble out, and I’m gonna write my Blessing list until I’m exhausted of gratitude. Do it yourself, then hold them all up against what you’re whining about. Would you trade them all for what you lack? Didn’t think so babycakes.
2. Take back your power.
What is it that you’re moaning about? No boyfriend? Hate your job? Hate your flatmates?
Feeling powerless is awful, but whining will not get rid of the problem. Do something to stop whining. Join OK Cupid and get a date, see what options your work has for internal promotion or training if changing jobs is out of the question, start flat hunting. What ever it is, put aside 30 minutes today and just DO it. Victims don’t read Facets of the Fabulous.
If you are struggling to get into your chosen field, is there any way you can create a chance for yourself? You will learn so much if you put yourself out there.
Radio Producer: Can you volunteer at your local hospital? Call them up and find out!
Cake decorating: Search online for a baking competition, like Edinburgh Cake Ladies.
Or, start up your own business on the side!!!!!!!
Till then, stop the damn whining (your pals are bored to tears fyi) instead go out and CHANGE what is upsetting you.